The Other Person is Never the Problem
I have never been the habit of blaming others without contemplating on what I may have done. But during my very depressive moments, I became quick to lash out and have been reactive to other people's judgment over my decisions. I was so "pathetically clamoring" to take control of my life. Not that there was someone else maneuvering it...just that, suddenly I felt helpless and clueless. My "control-freaky self" suddenly cannot make things happen as easily as it used to.
Truth is, we can never stop other people's reaction over us, or over our choices and decision.
However, if we react in a more peaceful, calmer manner we will be happier. We can act more compassionately, smile...and maybe, the next person beside us will be transformed just a little bit. Maybe. It's worth the try, though.
How do we do that?
1. When you notice yourself getting irritated, frustrated, angry or disappointed; PAUSE. That is the magic word. Then, comes the magical act: BREATHE.
3. Examine your idea on how they should act. Don't expect them to be like you. Toss those thoughts in the air. Smile. Act with compassion and kindness. It will surprise that "Rude Bugger Brute" and disarm him/her. He/She will keep guessing why you are perfectly fine...
That defines: SWEET VICTORY. The other person is not or problem. Never is. WE cannot control them. So we take control of what we can. Our choices and our actions.
Truth is, we can never stop other people's reaction over us, or over our choices and decision.
However, if we react in a more peaceful, calmer manner we will be happier. We can act more compassionately, smile...and maybe, the next person beside us will be transformed just a little bit. Maybe. It's worth the try, though.
How do we do that?
1. When you notice yourself getting irritated, frustrated, angry or disappointed; PAUSE. That is the magic word. Then, comes the magical act: BREATHE.
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2. Be still. Do not act. Acting on anger can be harmful. Both physically and verbally.3. Examine your idea on how they should act. Don't expect them to be like you. Toss those thoughts in the air. Smile. Act with compassion and kindness. It will surprise that "Rude Bugger Brute" and disarm him/her. He/She will keep guessing why you are perfectly fine...
That defines: SWEET VICTORY. The other person is not or problem. Never is. WE cannot control them. So we take control of what we can. Our choices and our actions.
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